Stereotypes are generally considered to be "beliefs about the characteristics, attributes, and behaviors of members of certain groups"(Hilton & von Hippel, 1996, p. 240). I keep my sexuality a secret from a lot of people that I know because I am afraid of being unfairly judged. I have a lot of heterosexual friends who are extremely homophobic from either crazy experiences with gay men or word of mouth type of situations. Naturally all gay men are not the same but you can't always stress that to other people to keep them from putting you in a category that you probably don't want to be in. I recently came out to an associate of mine because he had heard rumors and decided to just ask me. I admitted my sexuality to him and he instantly thought the reason I didn't tell him was because I had some kind of man crush on him and was slowly trying to make him gay. I had never been so insulte in my life. I explained to him that I don't always disclose my sexuality to people because it really isn't any of their business. Needless to say he and I never actually developed a friendship because to this day he still thinks that because I am gay that I want to date him. The same as heterosexual people aren't attracted to everyone they meet the same thing goes for gay people. Gay men have been known to be a bit outrageous and overbearing at times. You have the gay men who want to be a woman so they wear woman's clothes or talk very flamboyant. How can you expect people to feel comfortable with something that they are not accustomed to encountering.